"Pronoun trouble." - Daffy Duck

[ceri]

This is a question for y'all with transition experience, particularly those of you are late boomers like me. At what point did you start feeling comfortable having others calling you with the name and pronouns you wanted to transition into?

It's one thing for me right now to use this name and female pronouns when I'm posting here.  But I've had several of the friends I've come out to recently ask me how I'd like to have them address me in personal exchanges, and to be honest, I just don't know. There's a void in my head right now when it comes to what I actually want and feel is appropriate, right now, as opposed to years down the road.

I'm not looking for anyone to tell me what to do, exactly. (I'll accept advice, of course.) But I'm really mostly interested in others' experiences.

Comments

[keeva]

And by the way, I feel pretty much like you do, sister, about the void of uncertainty. :)

How about they just roll some dice and consult a table?

[ceri]

I've now got an AD&D-formatted Random Queerness Table in mind and I blame you for it.

[keeva]

You realize, of course, that was my intent -- right?

It's sorta like the table in the first edition "Reincarnate" druid spell, isn't it?

[ceri]

Or the wandering encounters in the original City-State of the Invicible Overlord. You could be run over by a parade. I was.

[keeva]

Last Tuesday, I showed my friends the Wandering Harlot Table from the 1e AD&D DMG.

...that's what led to us rolling up level one characters for 1st edition.